Sex Is NOT Safe: The Energetic Dangers of Sex

We learn early on that sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies and STD/STIs. Schools do a wonderful job at scaring us from having sex when we’re younger by showing us images of genitals infected with diseases, the negative effects of an unwanted pregnancy, and the staggering statistics about both. I am an advocate for engaging in safe sexual practices and think it’s essential in a healthy adult relationship and as a responsible individual. One surefire way to kill any sex life or relationship is to get an incurable STD. However, what we don’t learn about as children is the other ways in which sex can be dangerous… or amazing!

Throughout our lives, every sexual experience and every interaction builds on the next to become the filter through which we approach our lives. When we enter into a sexual relationship, we bring with us the energy of every other sexual experience we have lived previously. So if you haven’t processed or done your work around your sexuality and relationships, then you’re bringing those positive and negative energies into your new experiences.

The truth is, whether we want to acknowledge it or not, sex connects us. Yes, even one-night stands and side flings connect and change us. You are merging energy and allowing another person to engage with your most powerful energy: your sexual energy, or kundalini. Think about a heterosexual encounter, where the man is inserting his penis into a woman’s vagina. What is not seen, but what all tantra experts are aware of, is that there is an energy exchange happening in this moment. This builds a connection, as one person integrates a piece of their energy into the other’s being. Lets not forget that while all this energy is melding, our brains are also releasing oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone. This is the hormone for women that creates a bond, but is also the reason why you feel so sensual after good sex.

This bonding makes any relationship stronger and deeper. Whatever that relationship has been, adding sex adds a new layer to the relationship and creates a connection. This goes for one-night stands, long-term relationships, rapes, etc. You have just built an energetic cord to that other person. This is when sex can become messy, because these connections affect how the relationship functions, for better or worse.

This energy exchange and chemical bonding can be amazing and help us to grow and expand as individuals and couples. But it can also cause unforeseen difficulties. As I said earlier, if someone hasn’t been doing their sexual work and clearing their entire systems, then you could unwittingly take on years of their negative energy if you’re not careful. Also, if we become who we have sex with, then it is important that we make sure we want to take a little piece of that other person into our being.

I can remember dating a guy who was very sweet. We got along, had great conversations and were pretty compatible… until we began playing sexually. All of a sudden, after every sexual encounter I would find myself feeling nauseous. This had never happened previously, and so after checking in with myself I realized that I was taking in a piece of this man’s energy that was not jiving with my system. As soon as I broke off the relationship, I stopped having this reaction after sex. It was my body telling me that our energies were incompatible. It was also alerting me to the underlying energy that I had been overlooking in our daily interactions.

Now, there are ways to protect your own energy and ground yourself. As a tantric practitioner, I am constantly working with this strong energy. But the truth is that as much as I try, there are times when some of that energy sticks to me and I have to acknowledge the energy that belongs to others and try to release it from my system. This is where practices such as cord-cutting, grounding techniques, and meditation come into a person’s practice. Even if you are great at holding on firmly to your own energy and grounding, in the end there will be some energy exchange during sex.

Phone Sex – The Dangers of Phone Sex For Teenagers in a New Era of Technology

Phone sex used to be something more of a paid service for adults. It wasn’t uncommon for a male teenager to engage in this activity by dialing a 1-900 number after looking through his father’s adult magazine while home alone. This was mainly an impersonal experience and usually the perceived voice was never who was advertised. We all know the cliche jokes on phone sex operators, no need to dig too deep on the subject. Simply, it was more impersonal and costly, but a threat was never there for either party other than a lashing from the father when he got a phone bill.

These days, there are no $3.00 a minute fees, phone sex is free. This activity also no longer belongs to those employed by a sex agency and some unwitting teenage boy, but is now being done by teenage girls, college women, professional women, bachelors, and married men.

What has changed more than who engages in the act of phone sex is the technology it is performed on. Modern day cell phones are acting more and more like personal computers and with camera phones capable of snapshots and video, phone sex is more interactive than ever before. Smartphones allow easier interaction with voice, Internet, video, and text.

What makes phone sex more dangerous than at any other time in the past is the fact that many of transmitted images can be stored and shared with others. The wrong images in the wrong hands can be giving fuel to predators, stalkers, and sex traffickers online, making this dangerous for females as well as males. If your image can be shared with others, then there is a chance your phone number and other personal information can be shared as well making you easy prey. You don’t need to have phone sex with a stranger for a stranger to have your private photos and videos, remember that.

To protect your teenagers from this threat, it may take more than just talking and trust. The only 100% way to make sure your teen is not transmitting x-rated photos of themselves is to not have text or Internet enabled with their cell phone service. Sounds harsh, and it won’t prevent your teen from engaging in this activity on the Internet at home, but then they are at least safe at home, right? Yes, your teenager can still use their phone and say lewd things, but minimizing the tools available to them that enables them to enrich the act with additional media is at least one measure towards protecting your child.

The act of text messaging over a cell phone for sexual purposes is an act now dubbed “SEXTING”. This method can include photo exchanging with image enabled text messaging phones, or phones with the service activated.

The threat with cell phones is that your teen can easily be away from home while engaging and even arranging sexual encounters over the phone. Mobility is the threat and can become much more dangerous when coupled with additional technology. A predator can now verify a victims appearance beforehand, use fake photos of himself to lure the child, and meet up without the child even knowing the truth of that persons age or demeanour.

The scariest statistic on sex predation is that the majority of the rapes that result from the practice of phone and Internet sex are teenage males. The majority of these crimes go unreported due to either humiliation or the fact that the child is exploring their sexuality. Parents tend to keep a more blind eye when it comes to teenage males believing that it is mainly females that fall victim to sexual predators.

Be cautious and aware. This is a new era, and the same old games may result in a bigger loss than a large phone bill.

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Cocaine, Ecstacy, Alcohol Abuse Dangers and Sex – Is Your Sex Life at Risk?

Is Drug And Alcohol Use Having a Negative Impact on Your Sex Life?

Sex, everyone does it. Using Cocaine, Ecstacy and Alcohol to try to enhance sex with a partner is a dangerous and unforgiving route. Many young people are doing that too.

Some couples gauge the strength and well being of their relationship by sex. Are they getting together enough to meet their physical and emotional needs?

I have known couples where one partner was abusing drugs and alcohol. When sex became almost non-existent then that was their time to figure out what was wrong. Fair enough, it is pretty tough to have sexual relations when one person is passed out cold but what are the real dangers?

Using drugs and alcohol to artificially enhance sexual performance and perceived enjoyment carries many health dangers, addiction and death are just the obvious problems. Many report that they no longer can enjoy a normal healthy sex life. Lets see why.

What Lies Down the Path of Cocaine, Ecstacy, Cannibus and Alcohol Use for Sex?

Impotence and decreased and degenerated Sperm
Jealousy and Paranoia and Hallucinations
Depression- who wants to have sex when they are feeling sad and depressed
Inability to obtain orgasm and, ejaculation in males
Overload of the cardiovascular system, Death
Unwillingness and Inability to enjoy sex
Drug Addiction, Alcohol Addiction

Is the Blame in You Or is it the Drugs?

If your sex life has gone down the toilet and you or your partner are using drugs / alcohol then it is time to take a real look at the source of the problem. Drug abuse and alcoholism will impair your ability to enjoy a healthy sex life. A breakdown in the sexual aspect of a relationship cannot help but contribute to a breakup of the partnership. Addiction can only lead to death, jail or rehab.

Not only is there a psychological addiction being created but a physical one as well. The way in which these poisons rob your body of vital nutrients and cause imbalances and deficiencies can only have a negative affect on the body’s ability to respond naturally to sexual stimulation. I have heard of young men who strongly believed that they could only engage in sexual intercourse under the influence of alcohol or drugs. This is very sad and does not have to be the case.

If you handle the addiction and are able to restore yourself physically and spiritually through effective drug and alcohol rehabilitation, then I can tell you that your sexual fulfillment will be better than it was before. Your relationships in general will be much better, ability to communicate and confront life, understanding of self and general happiness in life can also be yours.